Creating a Wonderful Relationship – are you on the road to Love or Fear?

You have two choices in life; love or fear.

Every decision we make, thought we have, action we take and word we speak comes either from a place of love or fear.

Fear –based thoughts and actions are those rooted in negative emotions such as doubt and worry, anxiety, frustration, anger and depression.

Here we tend to doubt people rather than trust them, we worry about what might happen if…….
Actions motivated by love can still be founded in fear, e.g. We tell a “white lie” in order to save someone’s feelings. We BELIEVE it is because we love them and don’t want to hurt them but actually we are worried about their reaction to us telling the truth.

Living in fear has a huge detrimental impact on our intimate relationships.

We withhold information, are not honest about our feelings, become manipulative and exercise controlling behaviour all because we are desperately trying to get or keep love. Many of us become trapped in a cycle. Fearing a loss of love, we act in such a way that people move away from us, which in turn makes us even more fearful. We start to act in an increasingly desperate manner that serves only to push those we want to hold near ever further away.

The opposite of fear is love.

Being in a loving space means that you do not allow negative emotions to run your world. Instead you live in a place of trust and faith. Loving people live in the moment. They understand that the here and now is all we truly have to experience. The past is gone and the future is not yet real.

When you live your life from a place of love you feel gratitude and happiness for your life. You no longer reflect on the past, fearing it will repeat itself, you don’t imagine a hundred future scenarios and waste your time and energy worrying what if……..

Instead you appreciate what is happening right now in this moment. So pause right now. Stop for a second and listen, really listen, look and FEEL what is happening in and all around you right now. When you stop to savour the moment a plethora of wonderful experiences come to your attention that normally would pass by unnoticed. Here is a place of stillness, a place of contentment. Here you are not attached to outcomes, not trying to get something instead you appreciate what you have.

When two people come together in this place they experience total fulfilment and bliss. There are no power games, doubts or judgements, just an appreciation and gratitude of the other’s qualities and of the time they are spending together.

So move from fear to love. Trust your feelings and that of your partner instead of doubting them.

Wishing you much love, joy and happiness,

Rosa Smith
www.amazingchange.co.uk

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